Log aksar kehte hain ki bachpan zindagi ka sabse khoobsurat hissa hota hai. Ek aisa waqt jahan koi tension nahi hoti, koi zimmedari nahi hoti, sirf khel, hasi aur sapne hote hain. Lekin sach ye hai ki har bachpan aisa nahi hota. Kuch bachpan chupchaap guzarte hain, bina awaaz ke, bina kisi ke samjhe. Aisa bachpan jisme sab kuch hote hue bhi ek cheez ki kami hoti hai — apnapan. Aur wahi kami dheere-dheere bachpan ke akelapan ka roop le leti hai.
Bachpan ka akelapan sirf akela rehne se nahi aata. Ye tab aata hai jab ghar me log hote hue bhi baat karne wala koi na ho. Jab maa-baap apni problems me itne uljhe ho jaate hain ki bachche ke emotions unhe dikhte hi nahi. Jab bachcha apni choti-choti baatein, darr, khushi ya dukh kisi se share nahi kar paata. Tab wo dheere-dheere khud se baat karna seekh leta hai.
Aise bachche zyada shor nahi machate. Wo zid nahi karte, rona bhi kam kar dete hain. Bahar se wo "samajhdaar" lagte hain, lekin andar se wo bas chup rehte hain. Unka dil bhar jaata hai, par wo bol nahi paate. Kyunki unhone bachpan me hi seekh liya hota hai ki unki baat sunne ke liye koi rukne wala nahi hai.
Bachpan ka akelapan aksar unnoticed reh jaata hai. Parents sochte hain ki bachcha shaant hai, problem nahi karta, to sab theek hai. Lekin asli problem wahi hoti hai. Jab bachcha apni feelings express karna chhod deta hai, tab wo akela ho jaata hai. Wo khud ke liye ek chhoti si duniya bana leta hai jahan wo safe feel karta hai. Kabhi toys uske dost ban jaate hain, kabhi books, kabhi khud ki imagination.
Aise bachche aksar zyada sochne wale ho jaate hain. Wo har cheez ko gehra feel karte hain. Unke liye choti baat bhi badi hoti hai. Kyunki unhone bachpan me hi emotions ko daba ke rakhna seekh liya hota hai. Wo kisi se expect karna band kar dete hain. Aur jab expectation hi nahi hoti, to disappointment ka darr bhi kam lagta hai.
Bachpan ka akelapan ek aisa bojh hota hai jo dikhta nahi, lekin mehsoos hota rehta hai. Ye akelapan school ke dino me bhi saath rehta hai. Jab bachcha class me baitha hota hai, dost hote hue bhi wo khud ko alag feel karta hai. Group me hone ke baad bhi usse lagta hai jaise wo wahan belong nahi karta. Wo hansta hai, baat karta hai, lekin andar se kahi khali hota hai.
Is tarah ka bachpan bachche ko jaldi bada bana deta hai. Wo apni age se zyada mature ho jaata hai. Use samajh aa jaata hai ki duniya me sab kuch temporary hai — log bhi, rishte bhi. Isliye wo kisi se zyada judna nahi chahta. Kyunki usne bachpan me hi seekh liya hota hai ki judna dard deta hai.
Bachpan ka akelapan adult life me bhi peecha nahi chhodta. Aisa insaan jab bada hota hai, to wo relationships me bhi apna bachpan le aata hai. Wo pyaar chahta hai, care chahta hai, lekin saath hi usse darr bhi lagta hai. Darr is baat ka ki kahin fir se akela na chhod diya jaye. Isliye kabhi-kabhi wo zyada attach ho jaata hai, aur kabhi-kabhi bilkul door.
Aise log bahut zyada sensitive hote hain. Wo choti si baat se hurt ho jaate hain, kyunki unke zakhm purane hote hain. Unke liye ignore hona sabse zyada painful hota hai. Kyunki bachpan me bhi unhone wahi feel kiya hota hai — being ignored, being unheard.
Lekin bachpan ka akelapan sirf kamzori nahi banata. Ye kisi-kisi ko bahut strong bhi bana deta hai. Aise log dusron ke dard ko samajh paate hain. Wo sensitive hote hain, empathetic hote hain. Wo kisi aur ko akela mehsoos nahi hone dena chahte, kyunki unhe pata hota hai akelapan kitna bhaari hota hai.
Kai baar bachpan ka akelapan creativity ko janam deta hai. Aise log likhne lagte hain, sochne lagte hain, create karne lagte hain. Unke words me gehraai hoti hai, unke khayalon me sachchai hoti hai. Kyunki unhone zindagi ko bachpan se hi mehsoos kiya hota hai, sirf dekha nahi hota.
Bachpan ka akelapan ek silent experience hota hai. Iske liye koi sympathy nahi milti, koi taali nahi bajata. Lekin ye insaan ke character ko shape karta hai. Ye sikhaata hai ki khud ke saath rehna kya hota hai. Ye sikhaata hai ki khud ko samajhna kitna zaroori hai.
Lekin iska matlab ye nahi ki bachpan ka akelapan normal hona chahiye. Har bachche ko suna jaana chahiye, samjha jaana chahiye. Unki baatein choti lag sakti hain, lekin unke liye wo duniya hoti hain. Agar waqt pe pyaar, attention aur understanding mil jaye, to wahi bachcha confident aur emotionally secure ban sakta hai.
Aaj jab main bachpan ke akelapan ke baare me sochta/sochti hoon, to lagta hai ki shayad wahi akelapan mujhe main banane me madadgar bana. Shayad isi wajah se main zyada mehsoos karti hoon, zyada sochti hoon, aur zyada pyaar chahti hoon. Lekin saath hi main ye bhi jaanti hoon ki koi bhi bachcha is akelapan ka haqdaar nahi hota.
Bachpan ka akelapan ek yaad hoti hai jo saath chalti rehti hai. Kabhi halki si chubhan banke, kabhi gehri si khaamoshi banke. Lekin agar us akelapan ko samajh liya jaye, accept kar liya jaye, to wahi dard strength ban sakta hai.
Shayad isi liye kehte hain —
jo log bachpan me zyada chup rehte hain, unke dil me kahaniyan zyada hoti hain.
Verity of Ash ✨